Since Skater has gotten home from camp, he’s gotten two invitations for autumn bar mitzvah parties, one in NJ and one in NY. But just to the party, not the actual bar mitzvah. It was very clear from these invites that they were not havdallah services followed by parties, just parties.
Is this a thing now?
To me, this is weird. I’m kind of offended, really. You don’t want your kid’s friends at the service, but you’ll have them to dance (in Skater’s case at least, although in most 13-year-old boys’ cases, to stand around) at the party in the evening? Do you think my child will not behave at the service? Well, then you obviously haven’t read the Times. Or do you think that it’s not important that his friends attend the service? Well, I’d rather celebrate a well read haftarah than a well read candle lighting poem!
It’s funny. I can totally understand inviting people to the service but not the party, but I’m getting hot under the collar about the reversal. Am I overreacting?
Have you seen this? How do you feel about it?